This entry is inspired by my friend, Ms. Krystal M., and her willingness to engage is fruitful conversation with me. I hope that perhaps her part of this discussion will make its way to a public forum so that you might be afforded the opportunity to read in full what she has to say. Until that time, I shall attempt to create the discussion for you.
First - I must be responsible - and admit when I've made an error in judgment. I am not infallible, but I will not use that as an excuse or deny the misjudgment. It seems as though the woman I mentioned in my entry "Trying very hard not to sound like a bloody racist," is perhaps suffering from a condition that allows her a mere 30 minutes on her feet at any given time. I have not heard too much about this condition myself, in fact, I do not know anyone who suffers from said condition, but then again, there's a lot I don't know.
I will not pretend that something I said was wrong or said without thought. I am not Fox News. (If you are not aware - I'm referring to Bill O'Reilly's twice-over repeated mistake regarding his comments on Malmedy during WWII, you may read more at
Media Matters where they have a great article on the subject.)
My friend, Ms. Krystal M., says that she hopes I don't try to hide the racist I am by claiming to "have black friends." I do nothing of the sort - I don't have too since Ms. Krystal M. is my friend and happens to be black - this is called tokenism. I don't do it. However, she claims that my racism is "a condition that bleeds through." I'm not quite sure how to deal with this. I am not a racist, especially given the fact that I am Jewish and have had to deal with my own racism issues in the past. Jews and blacks have statistically been on board with each other for many years, especially among voting lines within the liberal parties. However, I believe there is huge difference in where the Jewish community is now compared with where they have been and where the black community is now compared with where they have been.
(((Technical Difficulty: I apologize - at this point I lost what I had written after this last paragraph due to a gross mistake of closing my Safari window... I will try to recover what I had written past this point which was quite a bit and learn my lesson to SAVE my work... it was good too. Damnit!)))
A great example of this is the secular use of the words "kike" and "nigger." (By the way - I don't if it came from Dr. King himself: "nigger" and "nigga" are the same fucking word. We all know the word "nigger" right? Right. However, it came as a surprise to me to find that MOST people, especially in my own generation has never even HEARD the work "kike" and could not identify or define it. "Kike" is the "nigger" equivalent used for Jews. The Jewish community rallied and refused to acknowledge the word or give it any credence, therefore, over a fairly short time span, the word has all but vanished from our conscience save for its short entry in the dictionary: "noun, informal offensive, a Jewish person." The black community on the other hand has embraced a word that RACISTS used to identify a race they believed inferior to their own, and according to Oxford American Dictionaries "remains one of the most racially offensive words in the [English] language." Until the black community unites and refuses to allow this word to be spoken by blacks and non-blacks alike it will forever remain in our conscience.
My friend, Ms. Krystal M., states: "...your unwillingness to be understanding of the historic issues that will be overcome GENERATIONALLY as they were created GENERATIONALLY." In my defense, I find myself quite aware and conscience of the history of the black peoples, and I do believe that we are in essence making the same argument, that the past atrocities, both on the individual and -more grand- societal scales, cannot be corrected overnight and with little effort. That instead, they must be approached from a new and fresh perspective, one that does not dwell on the past but looks toward a brighter future, one that is certainly in the distance and not right around the corner.
My friend says that I am judging the woman in "Trying really hard not to sound like a bloody racist" without the facts - and that I am judging an entire community based off this gross observation. I say nay - I have not judged the entire community - I have not even judged HER - I have judged something wrong with the African-American community - whether or not this woman had a real problem is a moot issue - if one should say that the things I have mentioned that are major problems the African-American community is facing are NOT real - that person in serious denial.
"We have changed the laws but not the hearts and minds of the people who make and enforce the laws." SO TRUE. I could not argue with my friend on this point. It is very easy to change the one - but an entirely other thing to change the other. More questions ensue: can we really change the hearts and minds of folks? No. They must undergo the same "generational" transformations that any society must undergo.
My friend, Ms. Krystal M., speaks at length about the "freshness" of racism in our country, and I could not agree more with her on this subject. Slavery, segregation, grandfather clauses and the civil liberties fight are very recent, and still exist in the conscience of the people of our country. The problem I see, is that not enough young blacks are concerned about these things or know enough about them. They don't take THEMSELVES seriously.
Until the black community takes their future seriously - I foresee an inevitable downward spiral in the lives of the members of that community, they have a lot of things to combat from within. My friend says: "he black race didn't create this mess alone and it will not be resolved by blacks alone." I have to disagree with her on this. Racism still exists in a big way, both against blacks and by blacks. In a previous essay written by my friend, she discussed the demonization of the black people throughout their tenure in North America, bell hooks speaks of it in her essay "Straightening Her Hair." This demonization has perverted the sense of "self" in the black community to an unfathomable degree, to the point where they themselves sometimes fail to recognize its effects because it is so routine for them to feel that way. It is up to the black community to unite, there is too much division between them now, they must together WANT something better for their children - for their future as a people.
I do agree however, with my friend, that the other sub-cultures of this nation should NOT take a hands off approach - but I fear the only thing we CAN do is to be as supportive as possible. To encourage the black young to succeed (to graduate from high school - not prison -- in reference to an argument made by a young black woman whom I unfortunately remember the name of that stated the "black ideal of success is different from the white." Is it really? Something to think about...) and to lift up our fellow Americans wherever possible - but just as WE cannot change the "hearts and minds" of the lawmakers, the black community must change themselves if there shall be anything TO support.
Are our opinions really that different my friend? Do we differ in substance or only in view?
Dancing my dance.
Zitaos